ok..this is the 1st statement..
"The friend who can be silent with us in a moment of despair or confusion, who can stay with us in an hour of grief and bereavement, who can tolerate not knowing, not curing, not healing and face with us the reality of our powerlessness, that is a friend who cares"
yeah..i firmly agree with her. a real friend is the one who are willingly to offer you some sort of protection whenever you need it. a person who can tolerate with you in whatever kind of situation. a person who can offer you comfort every time.
the 2nd statement..
"Change; we don’t like it, we fear it, but we can't stop it from coming. We either adapt to change or we get left behind. And it hurts to grow, anybody who tells you it doesn’t is lying. But heres the truth: the more things change, the more they stay the same. And sometimes, oh, sometimes change is good. Oh, sometimes, change is ... everything."
she discussed on change. i cant agree more than that. as change approaches us, it becomes inevitable. its running on you. we cant escape from facing all the changes right? we dont have any choice or any option when it comes to change. either we adapt those changes or we got left behind. for me, for sure, i dont want to be left behind. i need to grow up from one phase to another. i actually scared of changes. sometimes, i dont want any changes occur in my life. especially in my family and my friends. i dont want them to change. i just want them to stay the same. the same individual that i feel comfortable to talk with..to get along with. but, as Meredith coined, sometimes change is good and change is everything. what is good i perceived as something that puts you back in track of life. its nearly everything that is connected with change, whether its good or its bad, its up to us to comprehend the underlying truth about what we have been through.
heres the 3rd statement..
"Love the people who treat you right, forget about the ones who don't, and believe that everything happens for a reason. If you get a chance, take it. If it changes your life, let it. Nobody said that it'd be easy, they just promised it would be worth it."
yea..how come we dont love people who treat us right, right? i will never possibly imagine how does love means if we dont treat people who cares about me. i do believe that everything happens for a reason. theres no such thing as multiple co incidents. what happened to me i somehow i believe, is the consequences that i never think of. love, hatred, betrayal, dishonest, caring etc..those are the things that keep on haunting me day by day. and what are the reason for those things to happen? is it easy? no i dont think so. but im sure every action that i took, it would be worth it.
"There are times when even the best of us have trouble with commitment, and we may be surprised at the commitments we're willing to let slip out of our grasp. Commitments are complicated. We may surprise ourselves by the commitments we're willing to make. True commitment, takes effort, and sacrifice. Which is why sometimes, we have to learn the hard way, to choose our commitments very carefully"
well..now we comes to an issue here.. commitment. do you have commitments? do you? i have commitments. to my family, to my loved ones, to my friends, to my studies..so many of them. its true, commitments are complicated. we might never know how well we deal with those commitments. sometimes we have to push our own inner strength, for what? for somebody, for some thing that is really important to you even though you already have one. yea..i agree with her, we may surprise ourselves by the commitments we are willing to make. there was something that happened beyond your control and you dont have other options other than establishing new commitment. it did happen to me.damn. it lead me to some point, which i have to sacrifice and i have to learn the hard way to choose the commitment that need to be taken care of.
"At the end of the day, there are some things you just can't help but talk about. Some things we just don't want to hear, and some things we say because we can't be silent any longer. Some things are more than what you say. They're what you do. Some things you say because you have no other choice. Some things you keep to yourself. And not too often, but every now and then, some things simply speak for themselves."
grey did mention about truth that really hurts. i think theres a point for me to illustrate here. we cant deny that theres somethings that we dont want to hear and somethings we say because we cant be silent any longer. its true. i dont want to hear something that irritates my life. and for sure, for the sake of relationship, i cant stay silent anymore. i have to be strong to tell the person that i really need her. how? i dont have no other choice. i have to keep to my self on this which is..TRULLY hurts! until theres a time when the person who you really hope to respond back to you, contacts you and say..I MISS YOU..what the heck? i didnt start it..she did..is it true that some things simply speak for themselves? im confused!
this will be the 6th statement
"In life we are taught that there are seven deadly sins. We all know the big ones... gluttony, pride, lust. But the thing you don't hear much about is anger. Maybe it's because we think anger is not that dangerous, that you can control it. My point is, maybe we don't give anger enough credit. Maybe it can be a lot more dangerous than we think. After all when it comes to destructive behavior, it did make the top seven."
7 deadly sins? i never heard about that. but i know those sins like gluttony, pride or lust are the big ones. well, we as human being, cant stop from reaching our own limits. which later will lead us to anger. i did explode when theres something bad happened in my relationship. my mistake. i didnt make it clear enough to see into my own mind how anger affected my previous relationship. probably its because i think that anger is not dangerous. grey was right, maybe anger can be a lot more dangerous than we might think. and it explains why anger did make the top seven.
guys, these are my perceptions on what have been said by grey. i quoted them one accordingly and based on my very own experiences. and im quite surprise, what she said about our life is damn true if only we analyze it from time to time..and from there, change takes place..
thats all for now..thanks for reading.